As an Integrative Counsellor, I draw upon a range of approaches and theories to suit your individual needs. I will provide an accepting, non-judgmental, empathic and confidential space for you to explore your life situation. I strive to build a strong therapeutic relationship in order to empower you help you to realise your own resources, strengths and self-understanding.
Whatever you want to talk about is OK. I will listen, ask questions and be inquisitive in order to help you understand aspects of your difficulties that you may not have considered. I may sometimes offer thoughts and interpretations about what might be happening for you; giving you another perspective that is intended to help you understand the issues. Sometimes, looking forward into the future will be discussed; how will things be for you when the issues are resolved and put away. Depending upon your individual needs, we can work with your emotions, sometimes we may work with your patterns of thinking or perhaps more creatively using arts/craft materials. All of this is aimed to help you find your own ways that work for you in, leaving you less burdened than when you came to therapy.
The terms 'counselling' and 'therapy' can seem scary or confusing and having been in the client’s chair myself, I understand that asking for help may feel like a big step hence I always strive to:
What I am unable to help with
As an ethical Counsellor, there are some areas that I may not be capable of or comfortable working with. I feel it important to outline these so that you can make an informed decision about working with me and therefore ask you consider the following:
X As a client you must find the capacity to be able to work along with me. If you are thinking of presenting your problems to me, in the hope that I will resolve them for you, then I am not the Counsellor for you.
X I do not provide instruction on how to resolve your personal problems. I do, however, use skills to assist you in discovering the resolution for yourself.
X You must be able to look after yourself well enough in between counselling meetings and/or have a support network.
X I do not work with people experiencing serious psychiatric disorders (e.g. schizophrenia, psychosis)
X I am a counsellor/psychotherapist. This is not the same as a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a psychoanalyst or a GP/Doctor. I cannot provide diagnoses nor prescribe medication.
X I do not work with someone “sent” to me for counselling, no matter how well intended.
X Other difficulties I may decline to work with if I consider myself too inexperienced in the subject area
X I do not currently provide counselling for couples
Qualifications and Training
My training was within the Kent and Medway NHS Social Care Partnership Trust. The course is fully accredited by the British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists (BACP), the largest professional organisation representing Counselling and Psychotherapy in the UK (www.bacp.co.uk)
My online counselling training was provided by an executive member of The Association for Counselling and Therapy Online (ACTO). ACTO promotes, maintains, improves and advances online counselling and psychotherapy as a recognised method of therapeutic delivery within the mental health professions. (https://acto-org.uk/)
An important part of training to become the therapist I am is that I also spent many hours in therapy myself. This helps me to understand and empathise with some of the difficulties you may have in coming to counseling. Furthermore, I trained to qualify as a Counsellor having been a client myself some years previously. I understood firsthand how beneficial counselling can be - I experienced the personal power that processing our thoughts and feelings can bring.
I am experienced in counselling clients within a variety of settings. In addition to my private practice, I am currently working with Rubicon Cares where I work with clients affected by ANY crime whether it be recent or historic, reported or not and whether the client is the victim, witness or family member/friend. Issues I work with include assault, rape, sexual abuse and domestic violence.
Prior to the above I worked with children at 'Place2Be' in a primary school setting where I provided weekly one-to-one sessions to support children with a need for more intense work. I tailored sessions according to each child's needs, in an age-appropriate way and encouraged them to express themselves in non-verbal ways, for example through artwork, puppets, books or play.
I have counselled clients within a busy general medical practice and worked for North Kent MIND providing short term counselling for clients with a wide range of mental health issues. I have also worked in a local hospice for 18 mths providing counselling for both patients with life limiting/ending illnesses as well as the bereaved.
"Coming to see Carrie was one of the best life decisions I have made. I fell like it completely opened my eyes on how to approach everything I thought I already knew. I am more comfortable and confident in making my own decisions and counselling has definitely provided me with everything I need to continue with my life" - Sept 2018
"Carrie is a brilliant counsellor who takes her time in getting to know you and getting to know the root of any issues you may be facing. She listens to every work you say, offers constructive feedback and advice and more importantly to me, takes the lead when she can see that you're struggling. Thank you for everything!" - Aug 2018
"Carrie helped me through a very dark period of my life following a series of issues which all occurred in a short space of about six months. Her understanding of my issues and her calm reassuring nature gave me a great deal of confidence which was greatly needed at the time. Working with Carrie over the last six months has not only helped me get back to my old self but in a number of ways made me a much better person than I was before. Carrie is a very special and extremely skilled person who I cannot recommend highly enough. Always be indebted to you, thank you Carrie." - June 2018
"I would definitely recommend Carrie to anyone who needs a gentle, caring, friendly person to listen." - June 2018
"Carrie helped me deal with some difficult and painful issues in my life in a sensitive and helpfully challenging way. She has helped me immensely to move on with my life and become a much happier, more positive person" - Apr 2018 (Online counselling)
"It was interesting and informative to understand how early childhood affected me as an individual. Grateful to have got the help/guidance to be able to understand the link and go forward in life with a clear focus and goal" - Mar 2018
"Carrie listened to my concerns and was able to identify factors which had never occurred to me before. She showed me a different way of thinking - challenging how I originally thought - to show things are in my control. Very pleased with my sessions" - Feb 2018
"Carrie helped me to address the issues I had and to get to the root of my problem. I have been in a much better place than I have been for years and it's down to the professionalism of this lady. Thank you, Carrie." - Nov 2017
"Carrie is exceptionally tactful (and respectful) when trying to overcome my boundaries and safe zones of discussion, which she and I eventually met and overcame to establish the roots of my anxieties. She allowed me time to become trusting of her. I am ever thankful to her. I actually miss the time and space she allows me to have in her company, gaining clarity on situations and thoughts, which I have." - Nov 2017
"Carrie was fantastic, really easy to talk to and a great help. We need more people like Carrie" - Oct 2017
''I found Carrie to be very calm and positive. She had always thought about every previous session and prepared thoroughly for the next. She introduced thought provoking exercises, research, drawings, diagrams - all to be discussed in a helpful way. I found her to be a thoroughly professional and approachable person'' - May 2017
"Carrie is the most wonderful lady. She helped me overcome a very traumatic time in my life. I never felt judged, and her home was opened up to me so I felt comfortable. Some sessions I just cried and felt nothing but comfort and understanding from Carrie. Her work method is amazing I don't know how she does it. Throughout my sessions with Carrie, we tried several methods as to how to deal with my situation. Each time I felt supported and she filled me with such encouragement. I felt I could tell her anything and she really gave me a place where I felt safe and not judged. I hadn't felt this way in a while. I've made a steady recovery and wouldn't have been able to do it without Carries' help. Highly recommend to anyone. I can't thank her enough" - Jan 2017
"I found that coming to the sessions was very helpful. Also I rarely think about the reason why I started to come. I see things in a different way now. I know that you are a very good listener, which all helps and a nice person." - Jan 2017